ON BEAUTY VERSUS CHARACTER

          BEAUTY and CHARACTER. It takes both to find and be found by someone special. So close they are that one is sometimes mistaken for the other. Only, some people sees beauty as everything. So disheartening.  

           I've had a few relationships in the past. I should say, i don't recall  paying that much attention to beauty. I may have looked, but to pay attention requires my focus. And focusing on beauty is something fancy for me. I was always impressed with character. And only then will I pay attention to beauty. As far as I recall how the relationships went, all with precious memories. [kilig!] I was talking about years ago. Now, the perspective of being in love on character is a shot-on-the-moon instance.

           It's funny how relationships based on beauty begin and end. But it's the trend. No matter how good your character is, people will see it blurred if beauty is insufficient. Worst, they may just think of lust as reason for taking a chance to date. Distressing, but in most cases, true.

           In these days, it becomes a mind game to figure out intentions of a person you are dating with. The result can be depressive, but one may take risk for  a slim chance of finding someone true. It may somehow be unfair how I anticipate outcomes negatively, but better than to expect much and lose confidence. 

                      

          

LEARNING: AN IMPACT

      A hostess I was--my first post in the food and beverage industry.

     During my second month of stay in Bahrain, I joined a company as a part-time hostess in a luxury buffet in a not-so-busy mall. The experience was something new. I was surprised at how I learned a lot of things from colleagues and guests I get to talk to everyday.
      Speaking with people of different nationalities, aura, and culture was the initial challenge for me. After a few days of grasping how these people respond to each and every greeting, I began to feel accustomed to talking to them. Arabic and Indian cultures, in particular, are not that easy to deal with-but can be rewarding if pleased.
      I met Sir Lito, an experienced hotelier, who was the manager in the buffet. I was amazed with his humble approach on things and situations. He was a working manager who seldom give orders  but initiates orders through good example. I should say I thank him a lot for most of the things I learned and was comfortable at doing when I was in the buffet. I know that his attitude towards work and towards friendship will bring him a long way.
      I worked with several other personalities. So varied were their behaviors that I had to wear a different ear every time The complainer, the arrogant, the nervous, the lazy, the talkative, the naughty, the jolly ones.
I should say that within a short period of time, dealing with differentiated character styles boosted my immunity towards keeping myself away from the negative energy and just focusing on the positive ideas. In the end, only the happy people stays happy in their jobs. Concern or indifference to the helplessness of colleagues can be very easily noticed. Cheerfulness is always noted.

     So learning takes place even at the most coincidental and unexpected workplace. At the end of the day, the level of fulfillment still depends on how much you felt needed- and how people around you seem to have been positively impacted by the care the you give.